Add More Adventure to your Life
Volume 1 Issue 5 October 15, 2003
Idea for
the week:
Relationships are what we choose them to be.
Which relationships do your REALLY
enjoy in your life?
Which ones do you find most challenging?
What is the difference for you?
Spend some time this week looking at how you relate
to the different people in your life.
Feature
Article: Adventure
in Relationships.
Today, see if you can stretch your heart and expand
your love so that it
touches not only those to whom you can give it
easily, but also those who
need it so much -- Daphne Rose Kingma
Throughout our life we have many
relationships. From relationships with parents
and siblings to those with our life partner, children
and extended families (naming only a few of the
significant ones in our life), we get to look
at how we relate.
Some of the people we have those significant relationships
with make it easy for us to love them, others
make it harder; however, the choice as Daphne
Kingma suggests, is ours.
As in previous topics of adventure
that I have covered, adventure in relationships
follows the same principles. There is an element,
in any relationship, of risk, not knowing the
outcome and doubt.
In relationship with a partner,
how do you add the spirit of adventure everyday?
Some suggestions:
1. Spend time “not knowing” how they
will respond in any given situation…even
if you have seen it many times before.
2. Do something lovingly different each day in
relating to them.
3. Ask yourself frequently, “If this were
an adventure, what would I do differently?”
4. Embrace the doubt – there is a valuable
lesson within, tailor made just for you.
Can you apply these same ideas
to any relationship or even to creating a significant
relationship in your life? Absolutely.
Enjoy all your current relationships
– there is much for each of us to learn
from the people in our lives.
What are the benefits of adding
adventure to your relationships?
Please email
me with your responses.
I would love to hear them.
Love in our hearts.
As Daphne Kingma says, it is easy to love those
who are easy to love and the things we like in
our lives.
The challenge is always loving those who are harder
to love and the things we do not like.
I have found that asking the question, “what
would love do?” helps me clarify what I
want to do. When I still don’t know, I find
it helps to spend some time quietly reflecting
on the possibilities without knowing the outcome.
In the last 12 hours, I have been given that opportunity
once again. My brother-in-law was in an accident
and is in hospital in stable condition after undergoing
surgery. My sister-in-law is doing well.
My family and I are going to Colorado, for no
other reason than to be of support and show our
love by our presence. There are many reasons we
could find not to go, not least of which is the
10 hour drive each way.
However, the overriding reason TO go comes
from the question a friend of mine asked me last
night, “If you can go, why wouldn’t
you?”
Warmly,
Barbara.
I offer a 30 minute complimentary
coaching session to get you started and see how
coaching can further your progress towards more
adventure in your life. Call 406-222-1036 or email
me to set up your time.
