Add More Adventure to your Life
Volume 1 Issue 8 November 17, 2003
Idea for
the week:
We need to teach the next generation of children
from day one that they are responsible for their
lives. Mankind's greatest gift, also its greatest
curse, is that we have free choice. We can make
our choices built from love or from fear
--Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
This week ponder the possibilities of making ALL
your choices from love – yup, especially
the ones
that seem ridiculous to do so!
Feature Article:
Responsibility and Decision
Making
How much easier would decisions be if you looked
at them from the standpoint of an adventure?
What if it were true that there
are no mistakes only opportunities for learning?
When you are taking responsibility
for all that is yours in life, without blame and
letting others take responsibility for what is
theirs, without blaming them your decisions become
less complicated.
When you blame someone or something
for what is going on in your life, you hand over
your inner strength and become drained of energy.
When you take responsibility for your part in
what is going on in your life, you tap into that
inner strength and make decisions from your heart
that move you forward in a given direction.
Many people do not make a decision,
because they believe that once they have decided,
there is no turning back – in my experience
there are very few decisions that fit into that
category.
Frequently, blaming yourself of
being fickle, a wimp __________, you fill in the
blank will be what comes up when you think of
changing the decision you first made. Treating
it as an adventure, try it and see.
There are also people who continually
change course, looking for the “right”
thing, answer, work etc…blaming circumstances
and life is frequently the cause. Staying with
a decision for this person may be the biggest
adventure.
Which of the above categories do
you most usually choose?
Here’s three questions to
ask yourself about decisions you are making.
1. Where am I taking responsibility
in this situation and where am I blaming?
2. What would I do if I knew there
were no wrong choices?
3. What would be a win-win decision
here? (Trust what you know intuitively).
The joys
of cleaning house
This past weekend, the girls (8 and 6) and I cleared
out the toy room. We looked at school work and
made decisions on what to keep and what to let
go. We looked at books and toys that have been
well loved and again decided what to keep and
what to let go. We now have a big box of gently
used toys and books that they want to choose who
to give them to. My job this week is to find out
the various local organizations that accept toys
and books to distribute around the holidays and
hand the decision over to them.
Sunday afternoon, I found both of them sitting
at their table in the toy room, enjoying the clear
and clean area they had created. Mia said, “I
really liked you helping us with deciding how
to give away our things, it made it easier and
didn’t seem to take so long. I want to spend
more time at my desk now and I can see where everything
is”.
It made all the other projects I had thought about
doing this weekend suddenly become unimportant.
Even cleaning and clearing can be connecting and
important time to spend with children.
Enjoy your week.
Warmly,
Barbara.
I offer a 30 minute complimentary
coaching session to get you started and see how
coaching can further your progress towards more
adventure in your life. Call 406-222-1036 or email
me to set up your time.
