1. Welcome
It is with pleasure that I return again to writing
and publishing your newsletter.
This is the 3rd month of the year and here in
Montana, winter is still in full swing.
I remember when I lived in England that we were
looking forward to Spring at this time whereas
here we think about a couple more months before
we get those gorgeous days...although we are
often mistaken!
I invite you to pass this newsletter on to those
you think may enjoy it – we grow by referral
and I truly enjoy knowing that I have new readers.
Contents
1. Welcome
2. Idea for the week.
3. Living the Adventure – Being Real
4. 6 Advisors™
5. Synchronicity
2. Idea for the week
People are like stained-glass
windows.
They sparkle and shine when the sun is out,
but when the darkness sets in,
their true beauty is revealed only if there
is a light from within - Elizabet Kubler-Ross
How much TV do you watch each week? How much
do you worry about what the media is reporting?
Are you gripped by fear or open to opportunity?
Fear is the darkness and often the light from
within can be brought forth by another.
Today I invite you to think about others
to see what they have to offer and what light
you can call forth. What can you learn from
them? Are you set in your ways or are you
open to change?
3. Living the Adventure
- Being Real
How real is real?
Have you noticed how “being real”
is often used in the context of sharing your
challenges?
Is “being real” about telling
people all the things we are struggling with
or is it about telling people what we have
to be grateful for in our lives?
The answer – it depends on who you are
– and it can change from moment to moment.
If you are someone who has often “put
a brave face on it”, “sucked it
up” or otherwise pretended that all
was well when it was not, it may mean that
you begin to share the things you are struggling
with. If you are someone who has frequently
been full of woes - again pretended that nothing
was going well when there are some good things,
then it may mean that you begin sharing the
things you are grateful for in your life.
What is true for most of us is that we have
days when we feel great and things are going
well and there are other days when we don’t
feel great and things are going not so well…what
about days when we don’t feel great,
however everything is going well? Which part
do you share? Being real would be to share
all of it, briefly.
Learning to be real is an art, like many
communicating skills.
Here are some guidelines about being real:
1. When someone asks how you are doing, check
to see if they really want to hear and they
have time – sharing how you are really
doing only to have the other person be non-empathetic,
indifferent or in a hurry is not really helpful
to you or them.
2. When you share, be brief and factual about
whatever is going on and your feelings –
good, bad or indifferent.
3. If you have challenges ask if they’re
OK listening to them.
4. If you are sharing challenges, ask for
what you want – if you just want someone
to listen without offering advice or sharing
their story, ask for that; if you want someone
to share what they know about others in your
situation, ask for that…often people
do not know how to respond.
Sometimes we believe that we shouldn’t
be doing well if others aren’t. How
would it be if you began to share what is
real for you even if it is way outside the
other persons’ experience?
Next time…being at peace vs. pretending.
Enjoy your Life…it’s the only
one you’ve got!
4. 6 Advisors™
Do you know how your thoughts are affecting
your life? Do you know which thoughts are
sabotaging the very things you are wanting
to change?
